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Let me ask you a question.
How would you order these relationships in your life?
GOD – CHILDREN – HUSBAND
When I was first asked this question in my Apples of Gold class, my first thought was my children, my husband, then God.
That’s not it at all.
When I become a mother, my first breath, my first thought, was for my child. Everything and anything has pretty much revolved around them.
However, I learned something that I truly believe is very important and not something we often think about.
First and foremost your relationship with God is most important. If you don’t believe in God, this may not be true for you. But I do, and I know God is there every step of the way to help guide us and make correct decisions, even if at the time it doesn’t seem like that. He enhances all the relationships in our lives.
Your second most important relationship is not your children, but actually your husband. I know many will debate this but think about it. Your children are in your home for 18 years (or so) and then it is their time to “leave the nest” and become adults. What happens after that? It becomes just you and your husband again. If your main focus is only on your children, when they leave will you even be friends with your husband still?
“Love for your children follows love for your husband. It would be easy to put the children first, because caring for children demands so much time. However, if you haven’t firmly established a good relationship with your husband, you will struggle when the children are on their own. You will also struggle raising the children if your marriage is not solid. When you have a good marriage, the years after the children leave are precious time for the two of you. Many child-development experts agree: the thing children crave most in the world are parents who love each other.” – Apples of Gold
For me, it was like a light bulb going off when I heard that, because it is so true. When I married my husband, it was till death do us part.
Let me ask you a question.
How would you order these relationships in your life?
About the Author:
When she is not chasing after her three adorable girls, Hanan loves to talk about the up’s and down’s of parenting, cooking, and life in general at Lilac City Momma. You can also catch her over on Facebook and Twitter.
